Living in a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde
relationship can be very confusing, until we
learn about Borderline Personality Disorder. I
wrote my book Boomerang Love as I crawled
out of my
own pain with a Borderline partner.
Boomerang
Lovedescribes the on-again, off-again
behavior
some of us have engaged in with our love
relationships. We leave the painful relationship
... then go back to it ... then leave it ...
then go back to it ... over ... and over ... and
over.
Through the daily readings and affirmations in
Boomerang Love, you’ll be led
into an inspirational,
experiential journey as seen through the eyes of a
partner to someone suffering with Borderline Personality
Disorder. Boomerang Love progresses from the silent
withdrawals to the exploding rages of the Borderline -
from the fearful, walking - on - eggshells behavior to
the ultimate healing and empowerment of the partner.
Boomerang Love describes how the partner of the
Borderline repeatedly leaves the relationship, only to
return to it again and again, desperately trying to fix
an illness of which they don't even know the name - and
which only the Borderline can fix, with professional
mental health help.
In reading Boomerang Love, you'll:
Re-feel and finish grieving your own pain
Laugh and then watch your denial disappear
Achieve a new strength to stand up for yourself
Re-connect and reach for guidance from the God
of your understanding
The object of Boomerang Love is to help you reconnect
with yourself - who you are and what you're feeling in
the relationship you're in. Our feelings are what lead
us to the actions we need to take.
Our heads have known all along what we needed
to do ....
Dedication
Acknowledgements
Preface
Introduction
About the Author
About Ashleigh Brilliant
Boomerang Love, Roller Coaster Grief and
Most Valuable Dog
Booby-Trapped Love
The Day I Cried “Uncle”
Alone . . . and Stuck . . . in Our Grief
The Brain as a Plastic Purse
Near Death Experience of the Self, the Soul,
the Spirit
The Burning Corral
Compromise and Dignity
Surrender
Stop Blaming Yourself for Feeling Tricked
Riding the Horse in the Direction It’s Going
R2D2
Perspective on the Journey (Most Valuable
Dog Revisited)
The Three A’s – Awareness, Acceptance and
Action
It’s Not About You – It’s About Your Partner
Relationship as a Cancelable Contract
It’s Not Our Fault, It’s Not Our Fault, It’s
Not Our Fault
Bottom Lines for Partners of Borderlines
I Can’t Change Anyone (But Sometimes I Wish
To)
Setting and Enforcing Boundaries
How Did This Happen? How Did My Sweet Love
Relationship Get So Bad?
Addictive Relationships, Lines in the Sand
and Quacking Ducks
Intellectual Acceptance vs. Emotional
Acceptance
Black and White Love – He Loves Me, He Loves
Me Not
The Moving Target Defense
B-O-N-K ! Medicine
The No Fun House at the Carnival
Humor
Where the Rubber Meets the Road
The Gift in an Ugly Package
Feelings = Facts = Action
Doors That Open and Doors That Close
BPD Magnets – Bears to the Honey
Blaming: A Game Called Dodge Ball
The Stench with No Name
Forgiveness
Orange juice and door knobs
Patience for Borderlines
But Who Knew?
Perfect Partner to the Borderline
Feeling Tricked . . . and Betrayed
Borderline Footprints in the Sand
Borderline Resistant at Last
Borderline Preparedness
Rules for Living with a Borderline (Pardon
Us While We Vent)
Heroes vs. Martyrs
The Cowardly Lion: Courage vs. Wisdom
The Tin Man: An Unbreakable Heart?
Ten-Cow People
Our Mission
Trying to Help . . . Just One More Time
Get Out of Hell Free coupon
Borderline Awakenings
In Defense of Ourselves
Will We Ever Really Be Safe?
Aftermath Recovery
The Incredible Walking Door Mat
Identity: Who Am I?
Potpourri – Reality Ticklers
Definitions and Behavior Descriptions
Resources and Tools
Red Flags
Guidelines for Leaving a Borderline
Relationship
Domestic Violence – Safety Plan Guidelines
EPIGRAMS
The World of the Borderline’s Partner
The Borderline Speaks
Does your partner
act like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde? Click here
to study 80 Red Flag behaviors that
indicate the
possible presence of Borderline Personality Disorder.
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