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Low stress tolerance
with explosive behavior.
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Moody – switches from
nice guy/gal to anger without much provocation.
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Survive on threats
and intimidation to keep others chained to them.
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They do not take
responsibility for their behavior.
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They have to be
right. They have to win. They have to look good.
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Very slow to forgive
others. They hang on to resentment.
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Unable to sustain a
totally faithful relationship with love partner.
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Tendency to project
their own shortcomings onto the world about them – frequent
blaming. Never at fault.
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Ready rationalization
– rarely at a loss for words – twists conversation to divorce
themselves from responsibility.
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Glimpses of integrity
and emotion are seen – but short-lived. They give you hope that
they are changing, but return soon to deviant behavior.
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In a trust
relationship, inevitably betray and violate their commitments
and get blocked emotionally when they get too close to those
they say they love.
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They have no concept
of open sharing of ideas, feelings, emotions. Conversation goes
per their direction. They have the last word always.
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Can show tenderness
of feeling, then return to customary behaviors. Two (or more)
vastly different sides to their personality are seen.
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They never seem to
get enough of what they want. They leave others feeling drained
and confused.
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Highly contradictory.
He loves me, he hates me. They threaten their partner with
poverty, then indulge their partner or the relationship.
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You end up feeling
responsible for the problem. They get to your feelings. No
matter what -- they win, you lose.
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Attitude of “I’ll
meet your needs if you meet mine. If you don’t, I’ll find
someone else who will or I will not meet yours.”
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They are so skilled at making a mountain out of
a molehill, and you become so tired of the conflict. It drains
all of your energy, love and hope.