How Does a Borderline
How can we put it all into just
one nutshell description when people with the Borderline
disorder come in so many different
shapes, sizes, colors and flavors?
explode into rages. Some lurk quietly in the background
and then attack. Others withdraw for days, weeks ... months. Some control the actions of their partner, even stalking them.
There are signs of depression, even at times to the point of
all of the above. The list seems endless, twisting and
turning the Borderline's partner as each new behavior is exhibited.
How do we
describe to others the never knowing from one minute to
the next whether they'll explode at us? How can we tell
people how nervous we feel when it gets quiet? Are
they withdrawing and building up steam for a volcano act? Or are they quietly watching
us, looking for signs that
we are leaving? How do we describe the feelings of having
a ticking time bomb in our own home - our supposed-to-be safe
the American Psychiatric Association added to its list of
criteria for mental illnesses ten types of personality
disorders, all of which result in significant distress and/or
negative consequences within the individual. This information
was included in its Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental
Disorders, Fourth Edition (DMS-IV), Washington, D.C.: American
Psychiatric Association, 1994, pp. 650-654.
with Borderline Personality Disorder display a pervasive pattern
of instability of interpersonal relationships and self-image,
with marked impulsivity beginning by early adulthood. This
behavior can be present in a variety of contexts as indicated by