|
What
Others are Saying About This Book . . .
As
a psychotherapist dealing with borderline personality
disordered people for the last 18 years, I’m thrilled
to finally see a book written by a partner of BPDs for
other partners. I’ve served as the online
therapist for the Land of Oz Internet community board (landofoz@yahoogroups.com)
for the past five years. I’ve seen literally hundreds,
if not thousands, of partners post on this site, begging
for information and support to help them deal with the
pain and confusion of their
relationships with BPDs. I’m pleased to now have Boomerang
Love to recommend to them. It will be a lifeline to
throw to them in their beaten-down despair.
— Elyce M. Benham,
MS, NCC, CCFC, LPC
Lynn
Melville’s book, Breaking Free from Boomerang Love:
Getting Unhooked from Borderline Personality
Disorder Relationships, is an excellent resource for
someone who is caught in the cycle of violence. While
not all abusers have a personality disorder, as Melville
points out, the important thing is to focus on yourself,
to ‘re-connect with yourself.’ This is the only way
out of an abusive relationship, since we cannot change
someone else’s behavior. Melville’s straight-forward
approach to focusing on one’s self can be very helpful
to anyone affected by an abusive
partner.
— Rebecca Robertson,
Executive Director,
Domestic Violence Solutions for Santa Barbara County
Thank
you, thank you, Boomerang Love! Not knowing that
I was really dealing with a personality disorder with my
partner, I divorced him. I later forgave his behavior
and took him back again … only to see the old painful
relationship return, this time worse than before.
Reading Boomerang Love allowed me to finally see
that I could neither heal my partner, nor bear the pain
of living with him, and I got out.
— Barbara Spencer
When
I was going through the ending of my marriage, I was
sure my husband was crazy … or maybe it was I who
was the crazy one. I read Boomerang Love 25 years
later, and so many of the behaviors I could never
understand became clear to me. I wish this book had been
available to me and my children at the time of my
divorce from their dad. We would have been able to
understand that their dad couldn’t love my children or
father them as they needed, because of his mental
disorder. So much hurt and grief would have been
avoided. I urge anyone who is dealing with a painful,
abusive relationship to read this book. The tragedy is
in expecting normal behaviors from someone who is so
deeply injured that they cannot function with awareness
of the suffering of another.
— Pat Haley
|
![](../../images/pixel_wht.gif"){kind=tracking}
